When you think of tradionalism what comes to mind? Family? Children? Hearty foods? Or do you take it a step further and think of ankle-length dresses, bonnetts, and farms? All of these are correct, depending on how you view it, and to what extreme you view it.
I, myself, am a traditionalist. I am in a traditional marriage, and hold traditional views on everything from politics, children, cooking, and even religion. However, before you get the image of Laura Ingalls from, “Little House on the Prairie,” allow me to further explain. My current views weren’t always the case. I considered myself to be a liberal feminist until I was twenty-two when I had my first son, and got married. I am twenty-six now.
I believed in women working eighty hour work weeks, having casual relations with whoever she wanted, and never slowing down. It was just a normal way of life, and nothing to be ashamed of. Life in the fast lane, I suppose is the best way to put it. It wasn’t until I found myself locked in my office at work, crying, because I missed my son that it hit me like a ton of bricks. This wasn’t the life I wanted. I didn’t want the eighty hour work weeks, I didn’t want to miss crucial points in my own life, let alone his.
This continued for a year before I made a drastic decision. I left. Crazy, I know! I had had enough of not only my high stress office job, but the food we were eating, the bills we were paying, and the all-around life we were living. I made another drastic decision. I changed it.
Understand, this didn’t happen overnight. It has taken almost a full year to rearrange finances, begin cooking from scratch, gardening, and so forth. A traditional style marriage I know seems scary to a lot of women, and that fear is taught to us. We’re taught that if you are a traditional ‘housewife’ you will be completely and utterly screwed if your husband up and leaves you. That’s not so. It’s important to of course be educated and have skills, even in the household, just in case this is something you’re concerned about.
Traditionalism has become something almost looked down upon, especially in recent years. If you live this lifestyle, often times you’re referred to as incapable of taking care of yourself, or weak minded. Nothing could be further from the truth. It takes a strong minded man and woman to live this lifestyle. It is hard work, frankly, it’s much harder than any job I’ve ever held in my life. It takes determination, strength, and the ability to not give up even when it seems bleak.
It has been grossly misrepresented in both the media, and in feminism, where we have been taught as a populace, that women should disregard their femininity to take on a more masculine-based role in society. This of course goes against 40,000 years of evolution, and has directly impacted birth rates - or lack thereof - as well as the rise of political correctness.
As I’m sure you know, this has caused a snowball effect into what society is today - a crumbling mess. There is a light at the end of the tunnel, and it’s getting brighter each day. More women are starting to realize that traditionalism isn’t at all what they thought it was. It can in fact, be for them as well.
More women are seeing that they don’t have to work at a job they can’t stand, or miss out on their children and husbands - future tense included. Some call this act, ‘red-pilling.’ Meaning, the conversion process of feminist or left-winged women returning to a traditionalist lifestyle. I was the perfect example of this.
There is absolutely no shame in taking that leap, either. Or I should say, there shouldn’t be shame in taking that leap. New York Times even reported women and men who filled traditional gender roles, have been proven to be leading a happier, healthier and more fulfilling lifestyle with more sex. Odd? Not as much as you’d think. It was also found that when men did more feminine chores such as laundry, cooking, and cleaning, and women were the bread winners, the couples had 1.5% less sex. It doesn’t sound like much, until you think of how often the average couple is having sex a week.
All of this, goes back to gender roles ingrained in our DNA. Women have always been homemakers, gatherers, and nurturers, whereas men have always been soldiers, hunters, and bread winners.
In sum, you can decide for yourself what your personal role in society should be, but there is absolutely a reason why this lifestyle is resonating so personally with both genders.